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In his book 12 Huge Mistakes Parents Can Avoid, Tim Elmore describes Eva, a 25 year-old woman, who experienced a quarter-life crisis. She saw a therapist because she realized she wasn't awesome. All her life growing up her parents told her "Great job", "You're amazing", "You can do whatever you want." By the time she hit college, she believed she was the best at whatever she did.

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When college came, she realized she wasn't the smartest and most talented person. In fact, there were talented people everywhere. When she got out of college, she started working, and after two years, realized there were many other smarty pants. So she decided to pursue a singing career. Again, she wasn't alone and realized there were many others who were better singers and songwriters than she was. She became discouraged and disillusioned and saw a counselor because life didn't turn out like she thought it would.

What happens when we realize we're not awesome? It's humbling. It's also easy to begin comparing yourself to other people. As we look at other people's Facebook pages, Instagrams, Snap Chats, and Twitter feeds, our lives may appear boring. Just the other day I told my wife, "We need to hang out with this couple because they always seem to be having fun." As we look at pictures and newsfeeds, it's easy to feel like we're nobodies.

"Our worst sins arise out of our innate fear that we are nobody."


When we feel like a nobody, we can try to be something we're not. When we try to be something we're not, we realize the ideal doesn't exist. Check out this video.

What's the reality? The truth is life is difficult, and you aren't as important as you may think you are. However, each one of us is unique. Each one of us has value and worth. 

We are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27). This truth should humble us because we are not God, only His image. This statement should also encourage us because God sees us as valuable because we reflect Him.

For those of you who feel like you're a nobody, God sees you as a somebody (I Peter 2:9; Deuteronomy 14:2). That's all that matters. Believe in Him, and He will change your life.

Elmore says, "You're loaded with potential to serve people and solve problems." Every person has unique talents and gifts (Romans 12:3-8).

We can't be good at everything, but we can be good at something. Once you identify what you love and what you're good at, you can serve people and solve problems. Be you, don't be someone else.

For those of you who don't know who you are, or what your strengths and weaknesses are, take this test.


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